Die Before You Die

What version of yourself needs to be released?

We all carry versions of ourselves that no longer fit — like clothes we’ve outgrown but still keep in the closet, just in case.

That overachiever who only felt worthy when winning.

The people-pleaser who said “yes” to avoid being abandoned.

The tough one who never cried, even when it hurt.

We build these identities to survive.

But at some point… Survival isn’t the goal anymore.

It’s not that these versions were wrong.

They were necessary once.

But holding on to them now?

That’s what’s keeping you from who you’re meant to become.

Here’s the truth we’re taught to avoid:

Letting go of the false self feels like dying — and in a way, it is.

Because the ego doesn't go quietly.

It fights, clings, performs.

It whispers, “Without me, you’ll be nothing.”

But here’s the paradox:

You are not the ego you’re shedding.

You are what remains after it’s gone.

As I wrote in The Paradox of a Mortal Mind:

"The death of an old identity isn't an ending—it's the clearing before something truer can begin."

So die before you die.

Let that version of you go.

And in its place, make room for something softer, deeper, more real.

This Week’s Action:

Write a farewell letter to an old identity.

Give it a name.

Thank it for what it taught you.

And then—release it.

You don’t have to post it.

But you do have to mean it.

Because sometimes the bravest thing we can do… is grieve the mask so we can finally meet the face beneath.

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